Written by femtotrend team.
The fabric of society is very complex and there isn’t a one size fits all when it comes to parenting. I guess, it’s fair to say that we as people do not have an input about our future parents. Strange things happen in the world but to the best of my knowledge, an embryo has no idea about who its parents will be. In another word, people cannot chose their future parents. At some point in time, we were born and presented to our parents. Parents on the other hand have an input about their future children. In the western world, with progress in the technological fields, some parents can chose the gender of the embryo. Even how tall the future children will be following certain guidelines.
In this article, I want to focus on the parents and children relationship. We certainly heard multiple times that childhood is the time for learning. It is backed by science. I don’t want to dwell on the scientific aspect of learning but the social aspect. At birth, a child has about 100 billion neurons. Only about 50 billion neurons will remain at adulthood. As a child goes through childhood, every time he/she learns something, new pathways or synapses are created in the brain. The more synapses in the brain, the more advance the individual. For example, monolingual adults have one pathway for that one language and bilingual people have two, and so on and so forth.
Children were brought to this world by their parents who must coach them as they grow to become parents themselves. Let me get the obvious out of the way. I know that all parents in a sane mental state love their children. Furthermore, they want them to succeed in life and become responsible adults. I think the latter assessment is true whether they physically raised their children or not. It is a moral responsibility for all parents to raise their children so they can later do the same for the next generation. We can debate about how to do that but our end result should be the same. Obviously, children are different from one another and every individual is unique but there are core principles that must be followed. At the end of the day, parents should spend all their resources into training their children. Since a child cannot make many decisions, it is imperative that the parents step forward and make the right call for them. I sometimes hear some parents say that:” I don’t know what to do… If I try to discipline my kids this way or that way, they will be sad or hate me…”. Sometimes, tough love is necessary.
Tough love is a must in a child’s life. For all instance and purposes, children do not know what’s best for them. In my opinion, tears are better on a child than on the parents. As a parent, you do not want to fail your children. If you do, you will be crying in your later years. Parents should not be afraid to discipline their children. It is OK for children to miss that football game in order to study for tomorrow’s exam. The reality is that if parents do not discipline their kids and put them on the path to success, they probably will not succeed in the future. In that case, they will always blame their parents for their failure. When children grow up, whether they admit it or not, they will be glad they had parents who put them in the path to succeed. So parents, please coach your kids so they’ll be proud of you in the future.